#11 Loving lessons from a Caregiver

I learned that I needed to deeply look at and listen to Alan. Being so attentive allowed me to make good judgments and better decisions about what he needed. I could use this information to help make things easier for both of us.  For me to pre-judge what he would need invariably got us into trouble. There was no formula or blueprint for this. It required real contact with love and sensitivity.

My memoir Living on the Verge of Insanity describes how knowing what was needed didn't always mean I could accomplish it but at least I knew what to aspire to when I was feeling rested and generous of spirit.